Adam Dorsay, PsyD

Licensed Psychologist & TEDx Speaker

Dr. Adam Dorsay is a licensed psychologist based in San Jose, CA. He runs a private practice, is the co-creator of Project Reciprocity, an international program at Facebook's Headquarters, and is a consultant with Digital Ocean’s Safety Team. He specializes in assisting high-achieving adults with relationship issues, stress reduction, anxiety, and attaining more happiness in their lives.

Education

PsyD, Clinical Psychology, Ryokan College
MA, Counseling, Santa Clara University

Professional Achievements

Wrote an upcoming book on connection, "Super Psyched", which has a publication date of October 2024
Gave two TEDx talks, "Emotions: The Data Men Miss" and "Friendships in Adulthood: 5 Things to Know"
Host of SuperPsyched, an award-winning podcast with 200+ episodes covering various topics in psychology. Dr. Dorsay hosts all types of thought leaders as guests on his podcast, who add their expertise to the discussions.

Certifications & Organizations

Licensed Psychologist in California
Certified Executive Coach

Favorite Piece of Advice

Connection is everything, whether it's how we connect with ourselves, with others, with the world, or with our spirit. We need various forms of connection, which all matter to us for our psychological wellbeing.

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What to do when you're really lonely?

So if you're the type of person who doesn't historically reach out to other people, probably the biggest thing you can do is try reaching out and chatting. It might be a little awkward or uncomfortable at first, but it's really important to feel that you are connected with other people. So many people feel like they have to call or text for a specific reason or occasion, but it'll mean a lot to just reach out to someone out of the blue.

Another thing you can do is try going to the activities that are rejuvenating for you. You could watch something on Netflix that you really love and connect with, you could go for a walk and reconnect with nature, reread your favorite book. Make a list of the things that you love doing and make you feel full, and make sure you're referencing that list whenever you're feeling like you're alone.

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How do I find meaning in my life?

Think about your strengths and values and what you uniquely can offer to the world. Ask yourself: "What do I enjoy doing and how can I turn that into a career or hobby?" Doing this will help you establish a meaningful day-to-day life without simply chasing one pleasure after another.

How can I cope with anxiety due to coronavirus?

Don't spend too much time saturating yourself with any form of media associated with the coronavirus such as news, alternative news, and certainly social media. That's different for each of us, so you have to determine the right amount that will be helpful and not harmful to know. Also, do things that you usually find relaxing, like mediation, yoga, taking a hot bath, journaling, or talking to a friend.

Is it OK to take a mental health day from work?

Absolutely, everybody needs to take a break every now and then. If you have the ability to take a day off without getting into trouble at work and you need to take a breather, take one. Everyone relaxes differently, so find something calming and enjoyable to do on your day off to recharge your batteries. There's nothing wrong with taking a mental health day, so don't feel bad about it!

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