Renee Slansky

Dating Coach

Renee Slansky is a Dating, Relationship, and Life Coach based in Europe. Her business combines mindset and life coaching with love education. As a global dating advisor to several of the largest online publications and dating platforms in the world, Renee’s aim is to help people cultivate strong, healthy relationships. In addition to offering one-on-one coaching services, Renee has produced courses to help both men and women gain clarity, confidence, and direction with their love life and relationships. Renee has contributed her expertise to multiple publications, including the Huffington Post, The Good Men Project, Your Tango, Yahoo 7, Bustle, Marriage.com and Elite Daily. Renee’s methods are practical, down-to-earth, and aimed at helping her clients get sustainable results while finding love.

Professional Achievements

Founder of the #1 dating and relationship blog in Australia and one of the top 30 relationship blogs worldwide
Recognized dating and relationship expert since 2013
Dating advisor to eHarmony, Plenty of Fish and RSVP.com
Collaborated with multiple dating apps, including Happn, Flirtini, and Dating.com
Has coached over 500 women
Created a YouTube channel that has reached millions worldwide with its viral videos and 105K subscribers
Love expert on morning TV breakfast shows, popular radio stations, and featured on networks such as ABC and SBS

Favorite Piece of Advice

There are only two reasons why relationships fail: doing the wrong thing or dating the wrong person. When you enter into a commitment, these failings can become magnified. The greatest indication that you have a healthy relationship is having peace and progress.

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Forum Comments (12)

How much eye contact should you have on a first date?

I agree that the rule for eye contact is you usually hold it for three seconds and then you look away. And if they aren't able to hold it for three seconds, then chances are they're not really on the same level with you of how they feel.

What are some deep questions I can ask my girlfriend?

While it can be helpful to work off of a list of questions, I find it's often most effective to deepen your connection with a partner by asking questions that call back to complex subjects they've mentioned before. It's also important to approach these conversations from a place of genuine care, and to give your girlfriend space to talk. It's great to ask deep questions to build a bond, but make sure you're listening and validating her responses when she answers them, too! {{whvid|Expert Video What Are Some Deep Questions I Can Ask My Girlfriend Forums Step 0.360p.mp4|Expert Video What Are Some Deep Questions I Can Ask My Girlfriend Forums Step 0-preview.jpg|}}

Can a relationship work after cheating?

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How do you flirt over text? I'm so bad at it

Keep it light and keep it fun. Don't go into seduction mode — this could come across really cheesy or too sexual. Try keeping it light and flirty but intelligent at the same time.

If you're a woman texting a guy, this means you're not saying silly things, but you're texting witty comments. These are comments that don't necessarily poke fun at your partner, but comments that show that you're not going to back down, that you're going to hold your ground on a conversation.

If you are a guy and you're texting a woman, try complimenting her, but not to a point where she feels like you're making too much of a focus about her appearance. Follow up compliments with questions about getting to know her, then use the information you learn as a little joke. For instance, if she says, “I'm a little bit of a grandma. I get cold and I don't want to go outside usually in winter,” then you could flip back and say, “Well, good thing about that is I know how to knit. Can I knit you a scarf one day?”

There are always little key points like this that you can pick up on and then use to turn texting into flirty conversation.

Does my crush like me or not?

Generally, if your crush likes you, they will find an excuse to talk to you or to be near you. Let's say you're in the gym — if there are 50 treadmills and they decide to use one close to you, that's often a sign that they like you. They may also smile at you, walk close to you, or say hello. They'll likely make excuses to be able to have some sort of interaction or conversation with you.

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