How do I come out to my (unclear if supportive or not) dad and brothers?
I'm bisexual and out to my friends and my mom. I really want to tell my dad and my brothers (and my mom is trying to help, but... she doesn't get it at all...). I want to be publicly out to my family so I can get like stickers and pins and flags and stuff bi like christmas at least. However, my family has never really talked abt lgbtq+ unless I bring it up and then the conversation doesn't last very long. My brothers probably won't care and it'll be easy to like wave a flag in their face and be like "hey it's me! It's the bisexual flag btw!" but my dad... not so much. My mom has said that I shouldn't do a text because my dad needs a more clear message. I do agree with this but I'm stuck cuz the idea of telling him in person is scary. The best I can think of is a letter but I really don't want to be in the house when he reads it so placing it and finding a place to go would be kinda hard. Also my handwriting would probably be inelgible cuz I'd be paniking when I'd be writing it and he has bad eyesight so... help please?
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I came out to my family as Bisexual and they are cool with it. If you just work up the courage I have faith in you! Just a few things to know. You don't owe anyone shizz! So don't fret or the little things. If your dad is cool and fun he might respond with, 'cool' or 'ok'. If you think about coming out to your dad (and brothers!) Is gonna put you in harms way. Don't risk yourself just for acceptance. Also for your mom, if she doesn't understand it just sit down with her and explain it to her, that might help her understand more. I REALLY hoped this helped you! And let me know if it did!!
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Ok so I'm bi too (well I think I'm pan but idk) and haven't told my fam cuz they're VERY homophobic, but I think you should write the letter because that's actually really smart and also, ik your mom doesn't rlly get it, but also maybe ask your mom to write it for you, like, tell her what to write or smth. idk. gl!
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Help I'm bi to and i haven't told my family. ive only told 2 friends. anyway, i think you should try to write neat if you really think a letter is a good idea. or type it out and print it. idk im stupid :/
good luck tho :)
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good luck tho :)
I've been pan and bi at different times, I'm aroace now, but when I was coming out, it was really easy to come out to my mom. I actly still haven't come out to my dad yet so I actly probably wont be that helpful, but I say you should just tell them, and hope for the best. sorry if this comment didn't help, but I hope it did!
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I'm pan but I've only told a couple close friends. I would try to explain to your mom though and see if that helps.
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